Sunday, October 30, 2011

17 years...

17 years ago my life was forever changed...
17 years ago I buried my mother...

I remember thinking when she died how in the world am I ever going to take another step without her...
each day was so long...

my life before was taking care of her and my grandparents...
not until they were gone, did I really bloom...
between them, the kids and working full time...
that was my world...

I did so much after she left here...
I started crafting...
painting...
gardening in earnest...

I had never had time for me before...
it was a new path...
discovering what I had in me...

and looking back over the last 17 years...
I can tell you now that I didn't do it alone...
she's been  with me every step of the way...
a mother's love never fades..

the first few years were hard...
but, things mellow with time...
this is not a bad time of the year for me anymore...

but..
if you have your mother here with you...
don't waste a day...
because they fly by so fast...
ask her all those things you want to know...
write it down!

cause 17 years ago...
I had to do my very first Thanksgiving dinner...
yeah...
had always mooched off of grandma and mom...
they did the dinners...
I was just a dumb kid then...

have a blessed day, everyone...
I'm spending it with my guys...

10 comments:

Jettie said...

You were not a dumb kid, you were just in the 'Learning Phase' of your life. It is wonderful when you have a mother who loves you, and teaches you the things you need to know. And it is even better when you have a grandmother who is there too, teaching you other things. I miss my paternal grandmother so much, she was the kind of person I want to be when I grow up...

Ann@A Sentimental Life said...

I understand, missing my Mom everyday, it will be 9 years in 2 weeks. I remember thinking I could not make it without her...but some how we do.

NanaDiana said...

What a beautiful post, Tete! You were so blessed to have such a wonderful Mother..and she was blessed to have a dedicated, loving daughter.

I,too, remember having to fix my first Thanksgiving Dinner all by myself. It was kind of scary..but turned out pretty good...and got better each year as I got the "timing" down.


I had a wonderful maternal grandmother that I adored and I knew she adored me...what a blessing she was in my life. A non-judgmental, loving woman.

God bless you, Tete, for all the "real" you bring to the blogging world. I adore you! xo Diana

Country Wings in Phoenix said...

Good Morning Tete Sweetie...
What a beautiful tribute to your sweet Momma. She taught you well, as you are one of the most loving, kind souls that I have met in blog land. I know that we get this from our mothers, who are with us daily teaching us, even though we are unaware at the time.

I am thankful, so thankful to still have my momma. I had so much fun this past month with her. She made one of my favorites, creamed peas, which I have yet to accomplish. They never taste as good as Mommas. I will continue to keep trying though.

Thank you for the beautiful post sweetie. Isn't it wonderful to know that your sweet Momma is watching you each day, still loving you and seeing all the beautiful things you create? She is smiling sweetie. She is smiling.

Have a beautiful day my precious friend. Many hugs and much love, Sherry

Julie said...

beautiful. and this Thanksgiving Day, yes...it will be one year. I'm sure I will feel it. loved your post. I hear ya..... hugs to you Tete...

Beth said...

Very poignant. I still have my mom; she is the only parent left between me and my husband. I wish we lived a little closer...

Donna said...

What a wonderful tribute to your sweet mom, Tete. I don't think we as women ever outgrow the need for our moms. I miss mine dearly now that we are 2,500 miles from home. I would be lost without her.

Rebecca said...

I love hearing stories about her-she still lives in you!

Marydon said...

Oh, the beautiful memories, admiration & respect you have resurrected of your life with your Mother ... so bringing forth of mine with my Mother. Such warm heart felt love is so deeply expressed, Tete ... Mother is looking down, walking beside you & forever in your heart.

The hardest are the holidays. Mother passed on Christmas Eve, Harold's g'ma passed on Christmas Day.

Have a BOO-T-ful Halloween.
TTFN ~
Hugs,
Marydon

Joey said...

Dear Tete,

What a beautiful post. I lost my Mother when I was six years old, and grew up with my grandparents.

You were never a dumb kid... none of us are.

I love what you wrote. I wish that someone had written something about my Mother.

God bless you, Tete.

Joey